Bex (Becki Mckechnie) is Q:alliance’s Specialist Trans Volunteer.

If you would like to contact Bex, please email trans {at} qalliance.org(.)uk

Click here for Bex’s ‘Coming Out Story’

Bex is Back:
“ Hiya once again, well I am back and back with a vengeance this time due to problems at work and not having the free time to get to Q’s office, I sorta run out of times so ma last dairy page came to a halt but now I am on the net at home here goes nothing hahha. Boys and girls and any body else that wants to read my stories welcome to my space within the Q:alliance website.

Well let’s see what’s happened; I now av moved closer to god haha. I live on the 14th floor so can shake hands with him when I wants to and now am working flat out at IKEA. Still never stopped think I will die in the blue box, well they av said if I do there gonna stuff me and leave me in the corner. So as I say you need to die to get away from there hahaha.

What else well; my daughter’s found out sex is fattening and now is 12 weeks preggers so I’m about to become a trans nanny for the first time. Don’t laff it’s not funny, well okies may be just a little. Nearly forgot, had a car crash  was lucky to walk away from it but glad I did as I av got so much to offer the world can’t die yet ( there are a few who will disagree ) but sod them hehe. ‘Till you start paying my bills and cooking and cleaning for me I don’t care what people think and as I av a second go at life in my new and happy roll I gonna go hard at it so if ya don’t wanna get knocked over stay out the road this time  coz I not stopping for nothing. I av plans for what I want to do and by hell or high water I is going to get there.

Well these are just the start of Bex’s Bit, so keep reading coz I will be here all the time it’s you peps that av to keep up with me. Well love to all my friends and fans speak soonnnnnnnn.”

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How Bex came to Q:alliance:
“Hiya, well I wanted to tell you how my involvement with Q-Space hopefully helped the group to move up the community stakes.Well one nite many moons ago in the days when I use to go to punters gay club, I was a regular user and to this day miss the fun nites I had there. Anyway, I was there one nite and was upstairs having a rest after bopping away like a nut case.

Well I was sitting down having a drink while trowling my face back on coz was a tadge hot when a crazy looking guy came up to me and started to chat to me. First thing I thought was here we go again another nutter wanting to chat me up (well being so good looking and so youthful, get it all the time). Well the guy told me his name was Gwil and he worked for a group called Q-Space which was for the LGBT community and asked me if I had herd of them to which my reply was no.

Well at that time I wasn’t on the internet at home and it didn’t help living 18 miles away so the conversation went from there and he told me he was doing a survey on Trans people. Well that conversation soon went to an invite to Q’s office to meet and have a rite old natter about what, when and were Q did in the community.

Well I was hooked after chatin with Gwil. I was soon in and out of the office all the time as and when my main job as MK grave digger let me. Soon I was adding my own mark to Q’s web site working as their Trans Specialist which gave me the opportunity to do something I know a hell of a lot about (after all I been cross dressing for about 30 odd years at that time).

So that was my starting point for joining Q:alliance and until my work commitments changed and I sort of died away, which I wasn’t happy about. But then again I wasn’t on the net at home so it was too hard to get in and keep up with things. To this day I am sorry that I eased away. But now I am back with a passion to do what I can for the Trans community and of course Q:alliance who are the updated and main LGBT group in MK and BUCKS.

So watch this space girls and guys coz BEX is back !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Loves ya all xxx”

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Words of Wisdom:
“Just a few thoughts for any wannabe Trans people…

   - Just going shopping can be a nite mare, people looking at you.
   - Going for a drink with friends or worse on your own.
   - Be careful where you’re going.
   - Walking out your front door the first time will shit you up big time and how will people around ya take it?
   - Driving your car in heels the first time.

Hell there’s so many things that you have to think about your head will go in to overdrive and how will family and friends look at you when they see you dressed for the first time believe me it’s hard to make that first move.

All I say is be happy as you only get one shot at life but please make sure you’re safe in what and how you want your life to go. A few kind words and true friends will make it so much better for your trip of a life time and with the help of them and I hope transpeople like me we can make life a better place for you all so I say.

Go girls go and enjoy your life!

   Bex xx”

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In a Nutshell… 
“Hi in a few lines, a bit about my life…

Well I was born in 1963, what a great year the best the UK’s ever seen I think and in lovely Oxfordshire as well. Well by the age of 5/6 I was dressin up in my mums clothes and carried on like that for my younger years. By the time I was 16 I was in to motor bikes and the hells angels life style but was still cross dressin in private, but by now I ad my own wardrobe of girly clothes and was so happy to be able to dress in my own gear.

Then I was turned down for the RAF on medical grounds (never did find out why) and at the same time was told that I ad been adopted and that screwed me up at 17 believe me. Well by the time I was 23 I was married and was thinking bout avin kids (which we did 2 years later). Well being married and cross dressin was hard work, being with someone you love but not being able to tell them the hurt you feel is unreal.

I wouldn’t wish that on any body, still by the age of 30 I was getting divorced, bliss I thought. Happy days dressing all the time, WRONG I wanted more. I needed to get out the house in girly mode.

I soon was back in to old ways dressing and working and drinking like a fish, spent so much time pissed up part of my life is a blur (not a good thing to let happen). Anyways then sold ma house and went to live and work in Spain for 15 months, ad a wicked time. Wish I ad stayed there but only reason I came back was for ma daughter.

Well back in the UK I met a girl and we start living together, again cross dressing at every chance now this is not just a fad there’s more to it. We marry and buy a house together and then move to a much bigger house. Then my daughter comes to live with us now, got wife and kids and a hairy hound (meggy, a german shep). But I was so unhappy with my life it was killing me, then me dad died and not long after my marriage fell apart then I told Sammie about the trans bit.

A while later sold ma house and moved to MK where I got involved with Q-space. Moved around a lot as had no where to live then found somewhere and settled then started doing loads with Q-Space. By now I was living full-time as a woman and loving every moment of life, but couldn’t find work and started to get depressed big time as I have always worked.

After a year or just over I got offered a job at IKEA where I still work now so thank you IKEA! But the list of dear john letters I had, well makes you wonder about trans people in the work place?

I then moved in to a council house and besides living on the 14 floor its home well sorta is for some reason I cant settle and don’t know what I will do in the future. I know one thing I am happy in my job but I think my aim is to find paid work dealing with the trans community as it’s sum at that I know a hell of a lot about and well you av to be happy in your work don’t ya. Well ‘till I find a job doin that I will keep plugin away as normal.

Well hope this didn’t bore ya to death but wanted ya to know a bit about me and my rocky life and be awares a trans persons life can be a long and lonely one but I av been very lucky and av made a heap load of friends on the way and to them I will always be thankful. Since joining Facebook on the net I av found more friends and am content with life but I have shed tears at times and probably will again, but my feelings and love goes out to all who know me and to the people who will one day meet me.

Take care for now xxx”

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Question:
“My daughter is preggers and its due in October so what will I become?

1:>transnanny
2:>tranygranny
3:>grandad
4:>transgrandad
5:>nanny
6:>granny
7:>transnannydad
8:>thing
9:>it
10:>transthingyfromplantzog

Would love to hear from you what I will become ?
Clean answers only to trans {at} qalliance.org(.)uk please.

And any other names you can think of would love to hear them too.”

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Ma Local Pub
“Well as a trans you will find going out to pubs is to say not easy as you can’t just go in any pub and before you say it yes you should be able to, but and its a big but as well, booze and trans don’t mix at all. But hey ho at last in the Costa del Milton Keynes we av a gay pub and it’s called The Entertainers, you will find it in Fenny near Pink Punters.

Well I was in there the other nite and was talking to Mikey, the gay lord I mean land lord and I asked him if the pub was going to change its name in the future to a more gay friendly name! When Mikey ask me what the pub should be called I told him I ad two names in mind and they were the Gaytainers and the Analtainers. Both names I think are very apt for a gay pub.

What do you reckon? Answers on a post card to the pub please and make a note of my name so Mikey knows were it’s come from!Well thanx every body speak soon love Bex xxPS If ya see me in the pub, I am not proud and will let most people buy me a drink hahahahah”

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My Gender Trip
“Well first thing Monday morning I got up and scraped my face clean of fur and got ready then made a cuppa and sat killing time by messin about on Facebook.

I was waiting to jump in the car and head off to London to Charring Cross gender clinic. Well the time came to make a move and I was shaking a bit as this appointment was very important to me as I was hoping to find out when R-day was going to be (removal day). Well I av carried the ‘unemployed’ for so long I wanted to get rid of the bits I don’t need or ever want to use again.

On the drive to London my mind was working over time as it would. Well I was there in good time and sat in the waiting room with my daughter just chatting about things when doc Seal called me in and we started to chat about things and the meds I am on and why I wanted to do such a mega change to my body to which I replied all I want is to be happy and as I am I can’t be coz got the wrong body parts down stairs then he took me to another room were he told me to strip off (what a pretty sight I guess) that’s when he started to poke and prod me top and bottom, not nice (he had cold hands!).

Then dressed again and back to his room and we talked about the op and he wants me to get a bigger dose of meds so ma boobs grow bigger yea make me happy bring it on I can take it sooner the better is what I say. Well then it was dinner time and off to the main hospital for blood tests and dinner then back to see the shrink, lovely guy but still a shrink after all hahahha.

Well he was talking about the funding etc for the op to which he said should be well away being from MK as they got loads of cash going spare. Well now waiting for the surgeons to contact me about the op etc and once they have been given the go ahead down to funding the op should only be 3/4 months after that. So it’s possible before this Christmas!!!

So got fingers crossed now. For over 30 years I av been unhappy. Now it’s so close I can feel the cold of the steel blade cutting away at me body are bliss at last I can’t wait I wants it now all I want is to be happy and its close well now waiting for me hormones to increase and well from there life begins I hope. Well I will keep ya informed of what’s going on. Take care lovelies, tell ya more when I know what’s going on.

   BEX xxxxx

PS When I was told after the op I would be off work for 6/8 weeks and av to use a plastic dildo to keep ma newly formed hole open I was a bit gob smacked and the thought of the pain was well don’t wanna think about it to much!, well that’s it for now.

   Loves ya all xxx”

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OMG OMG
“My daughter’s just passed her driving test today, god help other road users. Do the DVLA know what they av done? Sh*t another loony on the roads! Anybody wanna buy a Volvo? Coz I’m thinking of trading it in for a tank or thinking about it a boat coz be safe at sea arrgggggggggggggggg

But on saying that the plus side is I can go to the pub now and get p*$$ed and don’t av to worry about driving home (only joking as I don’t or wouldn’t drink and drive - you spill way to much!)Well Samantha; well done kid! Congrats to you.

Now you av to learn how to drive now you passed ya test. Good on you pud, wish you well. Don’t forget when you break it, don’t come to me as I don’t play with cars any more, it’s not a girly thing to do! and you ain’t avin my CD player - buy your own!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    bex
             joking aside good luck and take care on the roads xxx”

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I’m H.A.P.P.Y I’m H.A.P.P.Y
GOING ON HOLS FOR THE FIRST TIME IN ABOUT 6 YEARS I WOULD GUESS. WELL GOING TO STAY WITH A FRIEND UP THE NORTH EAST COAST. WELL IM SOOOOOOOOOOOOO LOOKING FORWARD TO IT, I CAN’T WAIT. THE THOUGHT OF LOOKING OUT OF A WINDOW AND NOT SEEING BLOODY IKEA WILL BE LIKE BEING IN HEAVEN LET ME TELL YA!

MICHELLE’S A WICKED LASS SO ME THINKING A FAB WEEK OR 10 DAYS WATEVER WILL BE GREAT FUN ALSO HOPING TO CATCH UP WITH A GIRL FRIEND IN NEWCASTLE AS WELL WHILE I’M UP THAT WAY

WELL GOTA GO WORK FOR MA LAST SHIFT AND GOT PACKING TO FINISH AND DIG OUT MA ROUTE FINDER DISK SO CAN FIND HER STREET WEN I GETS THERE THIS WILL BE SO FUNNY IT’S ABOUT 220 MILES AWAY UP THE M1 AND THEN THE A1 BOTH SH*TTY ROADS AT THE BEST OF TIMES LET ALONE ON A FRIDAY BUT THATS WHY IM GOING EARLY TO MISS THE TRAFFIC I HOPE

WELL MA DEAR AND LOVELY FANS I WILL RETURN AND YOU NEVER KNOW MAY EVEN AV PICKIES TO SHOW YA…

WELL TAKE CARE TO YA ALL LOVS YA AND WILL MISS YA HEAPS BACK SOON

BEX XXXX

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Jim The Wally
Well ad to say about Jim, what a wally. Just ad email from the guy and the silly sod forgot to add an attachment to it so ad to resend it to all the Qworkers hahahahha I want the same drugs Jim’s on hahahah Bless him, He’s just bin camping me thinks he’s got water on the brain! Well he did say it was a wet weekend!

Hey Jim you dried out yet buddy was gonna say take ya wheelies next time but ya didn’t go to Wales did ya you never got across the river you stayed this side hehe.

ad to av me little pop at Jim coz nobodys safe from the wrath of Bex wens she’s on form yeahlove you all back soon xx

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Tranny on Tour!
Hi gang well I’ve just been away on holls went to stay with a girl friend up in the north east of England. Well the Friday morning started badly as hadn’t finished packing so ad to rush around like a headless chicken.

So being about 2 hours later than I wanted to be I headed off up the M1 with a drive of about 230 miles to go. Well it was warm and being a Friday the roads were filling up fast and the M1 and A1M are rite sh*ty roads at best of times. Well with out a stop, I was hurtling up the motorway at a snails pace haha but true. Well about half 3 I landed in the costa del Stockton on tees, mind you ma friend Michelle who I was going to stay with gets about with a sat nav. So when I rang her and said how do I get to yours from so and so place she went “I don’t know”!

So now its time to go sight seeing; Stockton grate fun but at this point my bladder was at busting point (if only ad got an empty bottle in the car). Well I finally found Shells house, nice place large garden swimming pool double garage you know the type, an end of terrace but looked nice. Well ad a pee then it was hugs and all the other soppy bits well unpacked and settled down on sofa - mistake coz fell asleep!

Sat morn got up and went shoppin, well they’re very good up there. No shit about being a tranny up there. Sat and sun were spent relaxing at home just a trip up to Tesco’s shoppin now and then. On Monday we went out for the day, sh*t not done that much walking for years need to find a second hand leg shop hahaha thought I was going to die. On the tues we ad to go to Middlesbrough to take her car to the Nissan main dealer, which the sat nav missed. I did wave at it as we drove passed and then went the long way round to get back to it any how dropped the car off and went shopin in Middlesbrough, ad a wicked day as it rained that heavy it was bouncin off the ground spent shit loads of cash but hey on holls - you know wat I mean!

Well on wed we went out as were waitin for a call to go get the car as normal just sat down for sum food at dinner time and phone rang, car was ready yippee at last. Well this time Shell followed me home from the dealer with her sat nav in her bag hahaha wat a waste of cash they are! On Thursday we were off to the coast, so Whitby here we cum. By dinner time was sat by the sea eating fish and chips wicked f**king brill ad the best day I av ad for years, loved every minny of that day.

Shell was taken pickies which she has emailed to me not bad at all but being good looking understandable hehe. On the Friday shoppin again and doing nowt special. Saturday was shopin and just out and about was bizi all day was glad to get in to bed that nite. Sunday came and Shell wanted me to go somewhere with her, but I said I needed to get on the road home as it’s a long drive back and had to sort sum bits out for work on the Monday morning.

Well the drive back took me 3 and a bit hours, a lot faster than the trip up there. Could be its down hill all the way back, well would be north east to down south.

Well that’s a short version of my trip up north, more from me to come soon take care you all loves ya to bits bye for now.

BEX xxxxxxxxxxxxxx

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Mega Change!

Well guys never in a million years did I think what has happened would happen, I av found a girlfriend who loves me so much and I care for and love so much! Since we met via the internet, it’s hard to believe but I was staying with a friend up north for a week and while I was there messing about on the net one nite I had a friend request which I accepted, to which I then found that the lass I was now talking to on tagged lived in MK.

After several nites chatting I asked her whereabouts she came from in MK only to find she lives in the same tower block as I live in! It was so funny as we chatted nite after nite I was finding out so much about this lovely girl as I stared at her pickie. I was falling for this girl and so wanted to meet her when I got back to MK.

On my return I was on line every nite trying to catch Jazz on line which I did at different times of the day, I asked her if she wanted to meet up which she said no. But I didn’t give up and kept plugging away, THEN one day Jazz asked me if I wanted to come to hers for a coffee I was there like a rocket believe me.

As I stood at her door I was shaking like a leaf. The time had come to meet this gorgeous girl. Her eyes were the first thing I wanted to see in the flesh. The door opened and those big blue eyes were beaming out at me, I was in love.

Well after that first meet we chatted all the time on msn and Jazz ad me give her my mobby number so we were txting each other and phoning as well. Then one nite I was sodding about and asked her if she wanted to help me do a shit load of washing up next thing she was knocking on ma front door.

From here on in its bin down hill (only joking). We started seeing each other a lot and it sorta just happened and I’m now staying with her all the time while ma daughter lives in ma flat upstairs which is good coz she’s close and she comes down to me and Jazz a lot and of course I go to see her a lot.

It’s nice to hear my daughter tell me she’s happy to see me happy again as it’s been a few years since I ad any one special in ma life. But now I have sum one I love to bits and we are working hard to sort our lives out and strange as it may sound, but were working together for the future.

So from a trans persons view on life it shows that there is some body out there for you, but as I found it do take time and you have to make sure that the person you meet knows all the ins and outs of being with a trans person, to which there are lots of issues believe me as I have spoke to Jazz about every think I can think of.

But now I’m so happy and ma work in the trans community will go forward in leaps and bounds with ma lover supporting me with what I do. So I’m happy and in love but will never give up the battle of my trans work so watch this space coz I’m still here and fighting the war xx

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Jim and Andy’s house /wet garden party !!!!
Well Sunday afternoon came round so quickly and the garden party was on at Jim and Andy’s pad well me ma girlfriend Jazz and sambo ma daughter piled in the car and Aylesbury we headed. Stopped and got wine etc as ya do, only got cheap wine coz didn’t wanna confuse Jim with decent wines.

Well got to within about 500 yards of their pad when as I missed their road twice I phoned Jim shoutin help, well wat a waste of time. God he’s hard work believe me, only with in walkin distance and all I got was (ugg) - guess the pimms was the main problem rather than not knowing were he lived!

Well after a few hard mins on phone to Jim we landed to be welcomed by Jim with a speed wobble on bless him, well we entered the pad to nearly get eaten by the savage guard dog.

We headed rite out to the smoking area far corner of the back garden, ya know the part I means the area behind the shed so no body can see you smoking, feel like a leper or wat. Well we hit the food not bad at all very nice. We started a new trend, smokers united as a few others got brave and joined us, yea we don’t stand alone !!!!!!

Well the gang from Q were in chatty mode so we all filled up on food and drink, ad no choice really we was next to the barbie. Pity about the rain, but sh*t not gonna let the British weather stop us hahaha. Well after a while the gang started to go home, did manage a few pickies while we wuz there, between the rain drops. Jim even came out and sat with us and ad a chat, well he ad to sit coz he would av fell over if he stood any longer hahahah - soz Jim

Well time cum to head off home now, sambo tells me I don’t wanna drive home sh*t were in her car and I still av to drive. Ah well never mind, the trip home was ok and soon back in to our love nest to chill out and relax.

Well Jim and Andy thanks for a wicked afternoon, did enjoy ourselves so a big thanks and guess same time next week then! Well saves avin to cook dinner every Sunday. Big thanks guys, hugs to ya both wuz fun take care guys and Jim how’s ya head you pi$$ ‘ed hahahahahaahah

luv Bex xx

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Training day
Well Jim and Nick (from Thames Valley Police) have sussed it to do a talk at Aylesbury Collage about trans issues on Wednesday am so lookin forward to this as don’t think they got a clue wat the bloody hell is going to hit um. Well for any of ya that knows me to say I am a tad open about wat I talk about is shall I say mild.

Well will keep ya posted on how it goes and I am guessing that Jim will av sum comments to add about the session so Aylesbury watch out coz the tranny road show is on the move again, blood, sweat and no doubt tears will be seen then but by the end of it they will know a lot more about trans people or I will die trying !!!!!

Updates to follow on this one

see ya all later guys
luv Bex xx

 

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The battle begins again
Well guys got a few issues to sort out at work, can’t say to much in case the wrong people catch on but so ya knows this trans girl will not lay down and die. F**k um!

This ongoing war is now becoming fun and so many bodies behind me I will see this to the end this time nobody’s gonna take the p**s outa me, sod ya well watch this space for updates

Mind ya gotta get back to work as still off with a bad arm doctor talking about havin to give me a jab in ma shoulder to cure the pain just can’t lift any thing with ma left arm so finding it hard to do every day things

Well catch ya all soon
lvs ya Bex xx

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Q:meet
Well for the first time I did get to the QMEET down the local as off work on the sick and took Jazz with me so she could meet some of ma friends. Well the turn out was a bit on the low side but hey ho the guys that were there are totally fab and they all took to Jazz so well and made her feel so welcome. So thanx to ya all guys its so nice being in such a warm and loving community and the guys who run the pub are wicked and looked after Jazz so a big thanks to you as well!

Now I bin warned about this next bit but its gotta be said I did have words with sum rite dick ed that nite and only because he was trying to treat ma baby like a f**king leper and don’t care who the hell ya are if you do that then you got me to deal with now in a different life 20 years ago I wouldn’t av ad words I would av ripped ya head off and sh*t in the neck hole, but I think I was very polite under the circumstances.

Still think the person concerned is a brain dead dick ed but will leave it there. Well the nite went well after that and we headed home to curl up in bed. Wicked nite guys and hope to have more to cum if work allows me. Well gotta go now, dogs to see people to walk or sumat like that any ways so catch ya all soon see ya all soon.

Bex xx

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(Please note that the views and opinions of this writer are not necessarily those of Q:alliance)